You truly are not what you eat. Let’s be honest; if we avoided every food for which there has been any evidence of adverse consequences, we would all starve.
Moreover, we have to be happy about what we are eating in order to be able to perpetuate any particular course over an entire lifetime. Labeling foods as “good” or “bad” and depriving ourselves of simple pleasures does not lend itself well to creating a lifestyle that can be mantained (that is not abjectly miserable) or to true emotional soundness. This is why I don’t advocate extremes in dietary changes.
Sure, if we take carbohydrates and fats out of our diet, we will lose weight, but we will also become incredibly lethargic and perhaps angry and maybe dead. I’m exaggerating slightly here, but there really is a better approach to making changes to our food choices, and it doesn’t have to happen in the shape of drastic degrees. Weight loss does not have to be a dismal process that finds a person feeling terribly deprived, discontented, or grumpy. It can and should be slow..
and will thus be more likely to remain indefinitely.
Going after the quick fix is a common practice. I WANT TO BE SKINNY TOMORROW, you might say, but let’s say you are granted this wish, be it by way of magic or restriction or a fairy-tale supplement. No matter the way of it, you have to take you with you into your tomorrow… into your new body… the you that still fancies the occasional fast-food visit or Mexican food night or pizza party. Those desires don’t simply disappear overnight, so allow yourself these indulgences but perhaps less frequently and to a lesser degree or in smaller portions. The changes that occur slowly afford an individual the opportunity to evolve mentally and emotionally as the body changes and are not nearly so acutely distressing and ultimately transient. If it is permanent change you desire, then a less rigid approach is more likely to effect undeviating continuity.
The thing that keeps you from what it is you desire is not the extra calorie you consume. Rather, it is simply your hyperawareness of where you are, so be easy about it. Enjoy the process. Make your way slowly and steadily to a healthier and happier you, and don’t get too terribly frustrated along the way. I once heard a wise human say that we don’t go on a road trip and stop halfway there up in arms over the fact that we have yet to reach our destination. We know we are going to get there. Give it time. Feel your way, and appreciate all of the pieces.
Enjoy the process. Enjoy what you eat. Be mindful about your course while not giving too much attention to obstacles and the trials. Allow yourself to feel great.